My First Blog

Okay, so it seems that everyone I know has a blog or a myspace page completely devoted to their own personal whims and interests. The narcissist in me could not resist.....

I just got an email today from my friend Carol who has spent the better part of the last 4 years(on again, off again) wasting her amazing self on her commitment reluctant boyfriend. Let's call him....Todd. Her New Year's resolution is to cut Todd out of her life completely so she can finally get over him and move on..... However, the plot continues to thicken as Todd's ex-girlfriend (let's call her Pocket) has decided to come back to town and attempt to rekindle the once luke warm flame of their love affair. So, we now go back to Todd making random excuses to Pocket while he tries to choreograph Carol's comings and goings from his house (complete with hiding any of Carol's personal items that may have been left lying about). Add to this mess the fact that they all work out in the same gym and you can just imagine the whole scene in one of those awful Spanish Telenovelas complete with raised eyebrows, pursed lips and heaving chests. So what does any of this have to do with me??? Nothing. But, it does make me appreciate the drama free relationship I am currently in. I have never believed in soul mates because it is ridiculous to think that you can go your entire life without falling in love with this person. Who says that your romantic partner needs to be your soulmate? I have always believed that my friends made much better soulmates than any boyfriends I have ever had. And for that matter, I don't believe that these soulmates are constant players in your life. I think they come in and out of your life changing you for the better and sometimes for the worst, but a lesson is almost always learned. So, I believe romantic relationships work better when those involved have more in common and irritate each other the least of all previous relationships. Not very romantic, but very practical. The only explanation I can come up with to understand why an amazing woman would spend this much time and energy on one person, is the actual addiction to how that person makes them feel when the relationship is going well and the challenge of trying to win them back when that love slips away time and time again. Since I consider Carol to be one of my soul mates, I will support and love her through this challange. Here's to all you ladies out there continuing to place bets on a fella that never pays out. Maybe a New Year's resolution has your name on it.....